Friday, November 03, 2006
online dating
A different article by way of a change, which I hope you will enjoy.
Back in the Game: First Date Advice for Seniors
In this modern age, it isn't unheard of to meet people online. As a matter of fact, a lot of people from all age brackets go on the internet for that sole purpose - to meet new and interesting people.
Single seniors have recently learned this, and people of advanced years have met each other online and have, through online dating services, met others of like mind and personality and set up dates with them. However as we all know from experience, GETTING the date is only the first step. You've met someone that you think you can mesh with... now what? Here are a few dating tips intended to help seniors through that first meeting.
Be honest with yourself - know what you want out of this date - forget noble intentions or base passions. You have to know exactly what you're after, whether it's as simple as a casual meet-and-greet for fun, or something that might have more serious, far-reaching implications.
Come as you are - no one likes being lied to. Don't try to present a false front and put your best foot forward. Just be yourself. If your date accepts you for a mask you put up, the damage that can be wrought when your true self is revealed can be immense.
Leave excess baggage at home - the last thing anyone wants to hear on a first date is stories about ex husbands/wives, fouled relationships, messed up business deals, etc. Yes, everybody's got problems and we've all gone through rough times, but revealing these things to someone too early in a relationship can be a damper.
Prepare yourself beforehand - aside from the obvious cosmetic things like proper grooming and clothes, make sure that you're mentally prepared for the date. Keep negative thoughts out of your head, and DON'T get nervous. A positive, sunny outlook and a steady personality are trademarks of maturity and strength that can work wonders.
Plan the date in advance - spontaneous dates can be wonderful things, but a bit of order and organization never hurts. Try to go someplace that interests you both, and has an atmosphere where you can both be comfortable. Exciting is all well and good for the young, but as the years go by, the value of softer, gentler things like comfort and warmth become more vital.
Leave word with someone - children on the dating scene have it easy. If things foul up, they can always call Mom and Dad for help. As seniors, you and your date have a greater load of the responsibility on yourselves for your own safety. Leave word with a trusted friend or family member that you're going out on a date, and give details as to where and when. That way, in case of emergencies, you have someone who will be able to watch your back.
Play it safe - one last thing: don't give your prospective date too much of yourself. This is meant as a warning in every form, whether emotional, financial, or whatever. Until you get to know the other person better, don't reveal those things about yourself that might be used against you if things turn sour. As an additional note, there are people out there who are all too willing to take advantage of the percieved loneliness of single seniors, and will attempt to use you. This is not meant to make you paranoid, it's a simple fact that you should be aware of so you can avoid.
Please visit our website Online Dating before you leave.
Online Dating
Back in the Game: First Date Advice for Seniors
In this modern age, it isn't unheard of to meet people online. As a matter of fact, a lot of people from all age brackets go on the internet for that sole purpose - to meet new and interesting people.
Single seniors have recently learned this, and people of advanced years have met each other online and have, through online dating services, met others of like mind and personality and set up dates with them. However as we all know from experience, GETTING the date is only the first step. You've met someone that you think you can mesh with... now what? Here are a few dating tips intended to help seniors through that first meeting.
Be honest with yourself - know what you want out of this date - forget noble intentions or base passions. You have to know exactly what you're after, whether it's as simple as a casual meet-and-greet for fun, or something that might have more serious, far-reaching implications.
Come as you are - no one likes being lied to. Don't try to present a false front and put your best foot forward. Just be yourself. If your date accepts you for a mask you put up, the damage that can be wrought when your true self is revealed can be immense.
Leave excess baggage at home - the last thing anyone wants to hear on a first date is stories about ex husbands/wives, fouled relationships, messed up business deals, etc. Yes, everybody's got problems and we've all gone through rough times, but revealing these things to someone too early in a relationship can be a damper.
Prepare yourself beforehand - aside from the obvious cosmetic things like proper grooming and clothes, make sure that you're mentally prepared for the date. Keep negative thoughts out of your head, and DON'T get nervous. A positive, sunny outlook and a steady personality are trademarks of maturity and strength that can work wonders.
Plan the date in advance - spontaneous dates can be wonderful things, but a bit of order and organization never hurts. Try to go someplace that interests you both, and has an atmosphere where you can both be comfortable. Exciting is all well and good for the young, but as the years go by, the value of softer, gentler things like comfort and warmth become more vital.
Leave word with someone - children on the dating scene have it easy. If things foul up, they can always call Mom and Dad for help. As seniors, you and your date have a greater load of the responsibility on yourselves for your own safety. Leave word with a trusted friend or family member that you're going out on a date, and give details as to where and when. That way, in case of emergencies, you have someone who will be able to watch your back.
Play it safe - one last thing: don't give your prospective date too much of yourself. This is meant as a warning in every form, whether emotional, financial, or whatever. Until you get to know the other person better, don't reveal those things about yourself that might be used against you if things turn sour. As an additional note, there are people out there who are all too willing to take advantage of the percieved loneliness of single seniors, and will attempt to use you. This is not meant to make you paranoid, it's a simple fact that you should be aware of so you can avoid.
Please visit our website Online Dating before you leave.
Online Dating
